Reclaiming Masculinity and Fighting the Good Fight

The Silent Gender Shift in Church

Have you noticed that the majority of people engaging in church activities—prayer meetings, worship, social media interactions—are women? Week after week, the same faces lead prayers, serve on rotas, and step forward for ministry, predominantly women. It’s a quiet trend, but one that raises a critical question: Where are the men?

This isn’t a critique of men, nor is it a call to dismiss the powerful contributions of women. Instead, it’s a moment to reflect on the broader cultural and spiritual dynamics at play.

The Cultural Decline of Masculinity

Over the past decade, masculinity has faced widespread criticism. Conversations around toxic masculinity, gender inequality, and patriarchy have reshaped societal views. While these discussions have unearthed important truths, they’ve also bred a cultural disdain for masculinity itself. For many men, being a “man” now feels like wearing a badge of shame.

This shift has left many men disengaged. Shame, isolation, and feelings of inadequacy drive them to check out, escape into hobbies, or drown in anger and frustration. The result? Fewer men stepping up in the spaces where they are most needed, like the church.

The Spiritual Battle at Play

This struggle isn’t just cultural—it’s deeply spiritual. Scripture reminds us that we are in a battle not just against societal norms but against a greater spiritual enemy. As C.S. Lewis said in The Screwtape Letters, Satan doesn’t always tempt us with dramatic sins. Often, distractions—like binge-watching shows, endless scrolling, or misplaced priorities—are enough to immobilize us.

Men are uniquely equipped for this battle. Historically, they’ve demonstrated loyalty, resilience, and determination—qualities needed now more than ever in the church. Yet, these traits are being subdued by shame and a cultural narrative that diminishes the value of masculinity.

A Call to Arms

The church needs men to rise. Not in opposition to women, but alongside them, embracing their God-given roles as warriors in the spiritual fight. Ephesians 6 reminds us to put on the full armor of God, ready to stand against the devil’s schemes. This requires discipline, focus, and a commitment to show up—whether that’s leading at home, serving in ministry, or simply being present in worship.

Men, you are not called to passivity or apathy. You are called to duty. The church doesn’t need perfection; it needs presence. Even when shame whispers that you’re not worthy, remember: God equips those He calls.

The Time Is Now

Masculinity isn’t inherently toxic. It’s time to reclaim its virtues—strength, sacrifice, loyalty—and use them to fight for the church, your families, and your communities. This battle isn’t one of physical might but of spiritual discipline and intentionality.

So let’s stand together. Let’s reject distractions, overcome shame, and embrace the fight we’ve been called to. The church needs you. The time is now.